EJ
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| Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 10:54 pm Post subject: Family struggles yet again. |
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You remember my cousin who died back in summer 2009...my mums brothers boy, well, nearly 7 months on, my Uncle telephoned his mum today to tell her that he was leaving my auntie - no explanation other than it just wasn't working. I spoke to my auntie tonight, and she said she can no longer cope. They both sound about as low as you can get and my mum is seriously worried about their state of mind and what they might do. I feel wretched for their daughter, Alex. If you recall, she was the one who found her brother. The despair that girl must be feeling breaks my heart. Poor nan and grandad in Devon don't know where to turn, and mum, she is at a loss. I was hoping things might perk up in 2010, but so far, not so good.
Anyhows, spring is springing, and I am determined to enjoy the garden tomorrow and clear my mind and love my children and Mark. Sorry to ramble, but you guys are great listeners and I can always feel your cyber love which always cheers me up, even if I don't always post. xxxxx
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toni
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| Posted: Sat Mar 13, 2010 11:02 pm Post subject: |
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OH, my, I will be sending healing thoughts and love their way. I have heard that the loss of a child is a major factor in divorces.
Do you know if they have been getting any counselling and talking with friends/family or minister. They really need to get some help coping with all of this.
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eileen
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EJ I really don't know what to say. Losing a child (especially the way he died) must be so very difficult to deal with. I can only hope that your Uncle and Aunt seek some help and can manage to stay together. It's Alex that is going to be so badly affected if her parents break up and my heart goes out to her.
Do let us know how things go won't you. Until then I'll send all the cyber love I can their way.
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Netty
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I really don't know what to say either EJ. Your family has been through so much. I do hope your Aunt and Uncle consider some counseling and try to save their marriage. Sending good thoughts your way.
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dooley
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| Posted: Sun Mar 14, 2010 12:36 am Post subject: |
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I,too, will send good, loving thoughts and prayers their way. I hope that maybe just being apart will make them see that they need each other. Hang in there, E.J. Good things will be coming your way. Enjoy your time tomorrow and have fun with your kids. dooley
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Sjoerd
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| Posted: Sun Mar 14, 2010 12:42 am Post subject: |
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It's a terribly unhappy message this time, EJ.
Sending all the good wishes I can. ..and wishing you the strength to get over this hurdle too.
I hope that you can loose yourself at your lottie and just sort of relax and enjoy the fresh air and the feel of the soil. Events of happiness as well as unhappiness are aspects to all our lives--for me the garden is where I deal with it all, good and bad. I am hoping that it will soothe your disconfort.
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glendann
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| Posted: Sun Mar 14, 2010 5:48 am Post subject: |
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I'm sending all kinds of cyber love and prayers yours and your families way.
I know how hard it is to loose a child I've lost two and it is so hard to go on. I hope they get help as if I had not had my hubby to help me through, I wonder if I could have gone on.God bless you all.
I hope you enjoy your garden and children tomorrow.
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Droopy
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| Posted: Sun Mar 14, 2010 8:22 am Post subject: |
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Oh, dear. Big, warm cyber hugs are sent your way, EJ. Poor Alex. I can't imagine how she feels about it.
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gfreiherr
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Sorry to hear about your upsetting news. I hope your new little quails will help to lift your spirits.
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daisybeans
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| Posted: Sun Mar 14, 2010 2:14 pm Post subject: |
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Oh dear... this must really weigh on your heart, EJ. So much sadness. Sending hopeful thoughts for all of you, but especially Alex... bless her heart. Hugs to you, EJ.
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EJ
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| Posted: Sun Mar 14, 2010 11:43 pm Post subject: |
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Thank you all for your kind words and wishes. Mum has spoken to my aunt, and things aren't looking good for them. My Uncle appears to be in the throws of a complete breakdown, but he won't seek any help and is almost wallowing in his own self pity without a thought for his wife or daughter. He has alienated his inlaws, been rude to his parents, and upset many of their neighbours and friends. Mum is on the case, as is his brother in law, so hopefully between them, they can convince Geoff he needs some help, and he needs it soon.
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Droopy
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| Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 8:00 am Post subject: |
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I do hope they succeed, EJ. Your uncle might have many good years if he only gets help overcoming this bad patch. *hugs*
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