Well, here we go! Still no date set, but we've begun talking about a wedding, and what it's going to look like, and our particular preferences for it. I need input!! We know we don't want anything formal and we don't want to spend much money. We want to be able to invite all our friends (and between us we have a lot...I've started to work on the list.) We're back and forth about having the ceremony and the reception in the same place with everyone in attendance, vs having a private ceremony with just our kids/grandkids in attendance, and then having a big reception after. There are pros and cons to each. He doesn't have a preference as long as family is there. I'd prefer to have a public ceremony but then I get all caught up in the attendants, trying to balance out bridesmaids and groomsmen, not wanting to offend anyone, all that. Ugh. As I said, I don't want anything formal. That includes clothing. If I have attendants, all I care about is color coordination e.g. the dresses all being the same color and the men having same color ties, or scarves, or shirts as the dresses. If there even are attendants! There is so much to think about. Please please help me out! Share your ideas, suggestions, pros and cons.