Remembering Mother

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  1. kate

    kate In Flower

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    So sorry Droopy, I am still where you are since last year.

    They say it gets easier but I wonder when at times as I am sure in the coming months you will ask the same. You were with your mum and that will carry you foward in time. I know it will because we were all with my dad at the end and I cry now no more for him, he is with my mum.

    The word sting is one of my favorite hyms, its in Abide With Me.

    I fear no foe, with Thee at hand to bless;
    Ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness.
    Where is death's sting? Where, grave, thy victory?
    I triumph still, if Thou abide with me.

    Its got seven verses:
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abide_with_Me
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  2. EJ

    EJ Allotmenteer Extraordinaire

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    So sorry to hear your news Droopy.
    Our thoughts and love are with you at this saddest of times.
    Much love and wishing your mum safe travels. X
     
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    So very sorry for your profound loss Miss Droopy. I hope your family draws close to one another during this sad time.
     
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    Memories and the internal truth of the love given and shared are what helps me..... but its still so hard.
    Im sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort.
     
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  5. Droopy

    Droopy Slug Slaughterer Plants Contributor

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    Thank you all for your kind thoughts. Mother's funeral ceremony was on Tuesday 14th. I think she would have been pleased. The decorations were white and blue. We had three psalms; Abide With Me, Amazing Grace and a Norwegian one called "Hold My Hand My Dear Friend When It Darkens". The sermon was short and to the point, just as my mother wanted it. The bag piper was a young man, and my mother would have liked him. After the official ceremony we went to mother's house. The bag piper played Amazing Grace outside her front door. Then we went into the garden and he played a lament there. That's where she spent most of her time. It just felt right to do so.

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    I know that the sense of loss will be felt more strongly as everyday life starts again but she'll still be with us in our hearts and gardens.
     
  6. kate

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    She certainly will Droopy, I am a great believer in a spirit being ever so close daily. I could not get through the day if I thought otherwise.

    I still get upset but I am beginning to heal with her help. I tell her daily how much I love her, say a morning prayer every single day for her.

    So far she has left me two white feathers on my doorstep, and one on her older late sister's rose in the back garden. They say here where I live that the spirit visits and leaves a white feather.

    You will have days where you turn as if you saw someone behind you, it will be your mum letting you know she got there safely.

    Stay strong Droopy!
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  7. toni

    toni Mistress of Garden Junque Staff Member Moderator Plants Contributor

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    My Mom loved Cardinals (the bird), she had pictures of them several places in her home and one on a sweatshirt she wore every winter. About 4 days after her funeral in early January of 2014, I opened the front door to see two Cardinals, a male and a female, sitting on our truck. They sat there for a few minutes then flew off. I felt then that she and my Dad (who had passed in 1995) were together again.
     
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    Droopy Slug Slaughterer Plants Contributor

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    kate, what a lovely thought about the spirits.

    toni, I'm certain your parents sent you a message through the cardinals.

    Mother was very fond of robins. I hope we'll have several of them staying here this autumn. Her cat is staying with us too. I'll introduce her to you when I have time.
     
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    Sjoerd Mighty Oak

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    That was a lovely way to do things. The heart-shaped piece is really lovely. It looks simple but for me it is symbolic--A big heart, which your mum had. Liking simplicity which the heart seems to show; however, the big heart is filled with hundreds, if not thousands of little blooms of purity representing your and her good memories throughout her life.
    That was good that you were able to locate a piper, and that he played at the ceremony as well as at her home.
    I shall remember her for the rest of my days.

    Thanks so much for taking the time and trouble to make this most recent posting.
     
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  10. eileen

    eileen Resident Taxonomist Staff Member Moderator Plants Contributor

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    I'm so glad everything went so well Droopy. I'm sure your mum would have approved of everything you've done for her. The floral heart couldn't have been more lovely.
     
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    OH my Droopy I am so late in sending my condolences on the passing of your Mom. I guess one just does not check out some of the forums on the Stew until it happens to you. It sounds like your Mom was a special lady. Hope you and your family are enjoying all the memories you have of her. I know you still miss her and always will. She was so young. Praying you are surrounded with peace, joy, and love always.
     

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