Blog Author
(view profile)
Recent Entries to this Blog I've been missing, have you found me?
Posted: 31 Jul 2008
Out and about for fun
Posted: 26 May 2008
Sunflower uncertainty
Posted: 06 May 2008
Is my day Mother's Day or what?
Posted: 06 May 2008
It doesn't take a detective.
Posted: 27 Apr 2008

All Entries

Enjoy each day.

Category: miscellaneous | Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 3:53 am

I said have a blessed day to my two girls this morning at 6:20 a.m. as I do each morning as they rushed out of the front door to get on the bus. I asked each "where is your coat?" (yesterday, the temp was at least 75 degrees) "We don't know" was the reply because the coats were ditched at first sign of a lovely day.

I settled on the couch for a nap because I had two appointments before noon and a class later the evening. My telephone rang which is never a good sign so early in the morning.

"What are you doing today?" It was my sister. I went through my agenda for the day. "Oh, I was just wondering, because (a family friend's child)was found dead on the highway this morning and I was wondering if you would go to the accident site with me. The family and body is still there." Yes, I'll go with you.

As I quickly dressed, the birth, childhood years, graduation, marriage, and breakup of the young 20 something year old childless female's life went through my mind. I could picture the heartache and shock of the family immediately. During our Sunday worship service, we prayed for families that had a death in it because the local funeral home was at full capacity.

As we approached the accident site that was 10 minutes away from my home in our small community, I could see the family and cars lined up on both sides of the little country highway that is no more than a glorified asphalt road. And there, still, to the right, just off of the pavement, was a body with a bright white sheet covering it lying still.

I hugged everyone, I saw faces that I had seen for countless years, and expressed my sorrow. I approached the mom of the deceased young lady and embraced her and she held me tight drawing whatever she could from my spirit and I offered all that I could in the transfer. I asked "has anyone prayed?" and she said no. I said lets hold hands and I'll pray. The mother said "can we go close to my baby?" I said "yes, whatever you would like."

In that moment of loss I felt so much. Surprisingly enough I felt 'joy.' Yes I said JOY. In a time of not knowing what to say or how to react to tragedy, I found just acting with love for another is a giving and a receiving experience. To know for one moment in time that I totally forgot about me and said here I am for you (pure) and the expression of "thanks, I needed that" said without a word being passed is a purity that I can only equate with the birth of a new born baby (pure) or the emergence of spring (pure) to me it is an undefiled pure: JOY.

I encouraged the family to lean on family, friends, community, and God in the days, months, and years to come and one day the loss will be replaced hopefully by 'joy' in how so many were there for them in their time of need.

Enjoy each day and be filled with JOY.

This blog entry has been viewed 560 times
You're reading one of many blogs on
Register for free and start your own blog today.



glendann wrote on Tue Mar 04, 2008 4:17 am:

I am so sorry for that family as I have been in those shoes twice and it has been many years and there is still heart break.No matter how long ago . Had it not been for God, friends and family I would not have made it.Thank you for being there for prayer as it does help give strength.Your a good friend.


kuntrygal wrote on Tue Mar 04, 2008 4:29 am:

I believe in times like this God gives us so much love and support. He enables us to find the words to pray, when we think we won't be able to find them. My heart goes out to this family. And my thoughts and thanks go to you for being there when that mother needed it the most. God bless all...


LilyPlanter77351 wrote on Tue Mar 04, 2008 4:37 am:

First I am so very sorry or your loss, your friend's and community's loss as well. I hope that God grants you all strength, comfort, understanding and eventually peace in this very difficult time.
I also want you to know what a great thing you are doing, it was people like you who helped me back in 2006 when my father was killed in a car accident. I was still living at home with him at the time and I came home from school to a note from a family friend asking me to come over asap. The love and support that they gave me made the hardest days of my life just a little easier and I'm glad that there were people willing to be there at a hard time. Your mention of prayer hit home, I know that I needed to be reminded that God was with me and that my father was with him. Please know that you and your community will be in our prayers. You may not know it, but people like you are angels among us.


Droopy wrote on Tue Mar 04, 2008 8:24 am:

I'm so sorry for your friends' loss. It's good to hear that you were able to be there for them and give your strength to support them. Please continue to do so, thoughtfulness and care is so precious to those affected.


eileen wrote on Tue Mar 04, 2008 10:39 am:

It's so important for friends and family to bind together when a tragedy like this happens. My heart goes out to the young womans family.


Palm Tree wrote on Wed Mar 05, 2008 8:22 pm:

Oh my - still such a young family. My heart goes out to you and them. You are a dear to be so thoughtful and caring.

Leave a Comment

Login or register to leave a comment.

Archives All Entries
February 2020
January 2020
December 2019
November 2019
October 2019
September 2019
August 2019
July 2019
June 2019
May 2019
April 2019
March 2019
February 2019
January 2019
December 2018
November 2018
October 2018
September 2018
August 2018
July 2018
June 2018
May 2018
April 2018
March 2018
February 2018
January 2018
December 2017
November 2017
October 2017
September 2017
August 2017
July 2017
June 2017
May 2017
April 2017
March 2017
February 2017
January 2017
December 2016
November 2016
October 2016
September 2016
August 2016
July 2016
June 2016
May 2016
April 2016
March 2016
February 2016
January 2016
December 2015
November 2015
October 2015
September 2015
August 2015
July 2015
June 2015
May 2015
April 2015
March 2015
February 2015
January 2015
December 2014
November 2014
October 2014
September 2014
August 2014
July 2014
June 2014
May 2014
April 2014
March 2014
February 2014
January 2014
December 2013
November 2013
October 2013
September 2013
August 2013
July 2013
June 2013
May 2013
April 2013
March 2013
February 2013
January 2013
December 2012
November 2012
October 2012
September 2012
August 2012
July 2012
June 2012
May 2012
April 2012
March 2012
February 2012
January 2012
December 2011
November 2011
October 2011
September 2011
August 2011
July 2011
June 2011
May 2011
April 2011
March 2011
February 2011
January 2011
December 2010
November 2010
October 2010
September 2010
August 2010
July 2010
June 2010
May 2010
April 2010
March 2010
February 2010
January 2010
December 2009
November 2009
October 2009
September 2009
August 2009
July 2009
June 2009
May 2009
April 2009
March 2009
February 2009
January 2009
December 2008
November 2008
October 2008
September 2008
August 2008
July 2008
June 2008
May 2008
April 2008
March 2008
February 2008
January 2008
December 2007
November 2007
October 2007